Self Esteem ABC - Overcome your Anger

Overcome your Anger

We are often told that we live in an "angry age. There are no statistics to prove it, but all you need to do is look around at people fighting about minor traffic disputes and shouting at each other for crowding into a grocery check-out line to know this is so. At its worst, this kind of excessive anger leads to murder - and there is far too much of that today, very often provoked by a minor quarrel. People have always fought and argued, but not so excessively and with the intensity that they do now.

The reason for this increasing anger is that people have a sense that the world is closing in on them, that there are too many people around, and that they are getting ripped off. We feel powerless. All of sudden, we're beginning to doubt that anybody can do anything about our problems, and we are angry. We explode in frustration. Another problem is that the

institutions that used to teach people controls over themselves - home, church and schools - aren't as effective as they once were. Instead, youngsters in many families are really taught by television, and they get this artificial notion that you solve a problem by pulling out a gun and shooting somebody.

Anger is a normal and a healthy emotion. It's desirable to display anger at certain times and release it at appropriate times because otherwise you can develop psychological and physical problems as a result of storing up that anger. What we need to control is excessive anger, which can be destructive and harmful to yourself and others.

Children are born with a kind of raw, aggressive response to any kind of frustration. A 2-year-old will claw you if you interfere with what he or she wants. Parents have to show children how to respect each other's rights. This has to be carefully taught over a long period of time. A person also has to learn that anger, carefully handled, can be a very effective tool in coping with a difficult situation. There are times for all of us when we reach the limit, the absolute limit of our patience.

Then, finally, what you should do to control your anger if all of us agree that anger causes more harm than good. Using good problem-solving techniques is the first way to avoid many of the problems that lead to anger and frustration. When you function well, you can avoid many problems. Many people create their own problems by organizing, planning and running their lives badly.

For example, let's say you have to make it to the airport on time. You should give yourself the half hour of grace you need to make it on time rather than running out there at the last minute, so that you don't explode if a guy cuts in front of you in traffic. That's the first line of defense.

Second, you need to have a consciousness of how you respond badly to problems, and then you can develop other ways of handling the situation. I catch myself in the middle of responding badly - being furious and angry-and I try to recover my equilibrium by going on and doing other things.

Recreation and finding outlets for stored energy are terribly important. Exercise, such as jogging and tennis is a good release from a lot of pressures. After you've jogged a while, many of the things that seemed so important and so frustrating aren't that important any more.

One of the most effective ways of controlling anger and frustration would be for everybody to scale back his or her expectations. We need to come to terms with reality. As it is now, many people expect too much in the way of material goods and status.

We ought to discard the notion that if you work hard, you'll make it to the top. We should continue to promote the idea that you should work hard, but people ought to realize that, even if they do, they may not make it to the top.

The anticipation that we're bound to be affluent and influential and have control over things is unrealistic. Yet many people have that feeling and are disillusioned, frustrated and angry when reality crowds in.

We are no longer an expanding society, and we may never be again. We should readjust our values to reality - recognizing that a good, decent, hard-working cleaning woman may be just as successful a human being as a millionaire.

When we reach that point, we will be a much happier society - and a lot less frustrated and angry.

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Self Esteem
◦ Ensure Your Child Has the Self Confidence to Succeed
◦ Focus on Finding Yourself
◦ Friendship - How to Manage Delicate Balance?
◦ Have a Positive Attitude
◦ How Self Confidence Makes Students Bright
◦ How Self-Esteem Affects Our Confidence
◦ How to achieve what you want?
◦ How To Build Your Self Confidence
◦ How to Communicate Confidently
◦ How to Ease Depression?
◦ How to Imbue Self-Confidence in Children
◦ How to Keep Motivated? (Motivation)
◦ How to Manage your Love Life?
◦ How to Manage your Time Effectively?
◦ How to Overcome a Confidence Crisis
◦ How to Regain Your Lost Self-Confidence
◦ Improving Your Teen's Self-Esteem
◦ Instilling Self Confidence in Boys
◦ Key to Interview Success: Self Confidence
◦ Live in the Present
◦ Love your Job
◦ Myths about Self-Confidence
◦ Obstacles in Building Self-Confidence
◦ Overcome your Anger
◦ Overcome your Shyness
◦ Physical Fitness of your Children
◦ Promise Yourself to be Self-Confident

Self Confidence
◦ 5 Days to Positive Inner Dialogue
◦ Abuse Survival
◦ Customer Service Self Confidence
◦ Denial
◦ Disabilities
◦ Drawing on Friends for Self Confidence
◦ Dressing for Self Confidence
◦ Facing Your Fears

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◦ Listen to your Self Talk - Inferiority and Superiority
◦ How to accept compliments
◦ Underachiever and Overachiever
◦ Who gets low self-esteem?
◦ Where does it come from?
◦ What is Self-Esteem?
◦ How Does One Get Self-Esteem?
◦ Are you a procrastinator?
◦ Are you a perfectionist?
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