Self Esteem ABC - How Does One Get Self-Esteem?

How Does One Get Self-Esteem?

Some people will live their entire lives having extremely low self-esteem. They will never get to feel the joy that a healthy self-esteem gives. How does one get self-esteem, or at least try to get it back?

Self-esteem is one's own view of himself. It highlights the beauty of the person in the context of the world. Self-esteem is not seeing oneself as the best person in the whole world it is a mere appreciation of the self as it is. A healthy self-esteem is not characterized by overflowing overconfidence nor is it the lack of it.

What are the signs of a healthy self-esteem? Here are some them:

-Being Happy for who you are

People with a healthy self-esteem are people who view themselves as unique yet beautiful. Having a healthy self-esteem will make a person take the notions of the world regarding what's beautiful or what's not in a good light. He takes them into consideration but the ultimate basis

for his views is his own belief. A person may not be as good-looking or as talented as other people but he can be as happy as he can be.

-Unafraid to take challenges

A healthy self-esteem will lead to self-confidence. People with healthy self-esteem are comfortable in trying out new things because they are not afraid to make mistakes and make fools of themselves once in a while. They are aware that there is no perfect person and everybody makes mistakes, so there's no reason for them to hide their weaknesses.

Being unafraid of committing mistakes is a sign of self-acceptance, with an emphasis on one's weaknesses. This is an important part of self-acceptance and self-appreciation.

-Accept mistakes and learn from them

Another healthy sign of a healthy self-esteem is the acceptance of one's mistakes and learning from them. A person with a low self-esteem would blame and put himself down continuously for the mistakes that he commits. It is a very unhealthy practice indeed.

There are a lot of factors to consider when making mistakes. Most of the time, these mistakes are brought about by consequences around us. Learning to accept mistakes and learning to learn from is a first step towards loving yourself.

-No need to prove oneself to others

People with healthy self-esteem need not to prove themselves to other people just to find self-worth and to feel accepted. People with low self-esteem tend to be restless in doing things in an effort to impress others. They equate success with self-worth and finding true happiness. There is more to life than getting a perfect score, shooting every basket and beating everybody else.

Having a healthy self-esteem may not necessarily equate to being happy. It is also possible that a person with a healthy self-esteem is unsatisfied with certain circumstances in his life and this makes him unhappy with the whole picture of his life. However, having a healthy self-esteem is a pre-requisite to having true happiness. If one owns the world and lives the life of a king but he views himself as a pathetic loser, do you think he will find happiness from all the material wealth that he has? It is more possible that his material wealth will aggravate his personal insecurities.

So how does one develop a healthy self-esteem? Listed below are some helpful tips into getting self-esteem.

-See the beauty in you

Self-esteem starts from self-acceptance and self-acceptance is built through seeing one's strengths and weaknesses. Identifying one's perceived strengths and weaknesses can be a useful tool in becoming a better person and having a better feeling towards oneself.

-Learn to let go

Let go of your mistakes and move on. Leave the negative things behind and bring the lessons along the journey. If one dwells on a mistake too much, it would eventually burn every ounce of self-esteem left in him.

-Learn to stop comparing

Stop comparing yourself to others. It may be okay to compare yourself to someone else on the descriptive level. You are who you are and let others be themselves.

-Teach your inner voice

The inner voice is the small voice inside your head which usually lowers one's self-esteem by dwelling on his faults and weaknesses. Speak to yourself in a positive tone. Always use positive remarks and try to leave out the destructive criticisms.

Finding self-esteem is not an easy thing to do. It is a task which cannot be done by anybody else but you. No amount of external intervention can influence someone who doesn't want self-esteem. Having self-esteem is a conscious choice. It can be the hardest thing to do but it can also be the easiest.

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